You never know how much you, or another, is carrying until you sit down and start to think or communicate about it. I recently hosted a Wellness Gathering, with the focus on Letting Go, and I was surprised by what others had been carrying around with them. You could feel the heaviness in the way they shared what they were letting go of, and could see the emotions as they rose to the surface. You could hear multiple tones as they spoke, and felt the energy from what they were letting go, as well as how it made them feel. It truly was an empowering evening of Self-Love and Self-Care. You don't have to carry so much with you, but you also have to be ready to let go.
I think letting go is essential to personal growth, and is an act of self-love. Letting go is not about forgetting, repressing, or dismissing what happened; it's about holding your arms open and embracing your past self. As vulnerable as it is, letting go is one of the most transformative and beautiful journeys we can take. It's choosing to face this discomfort for the sake of our joy, happiness and dreams. It really is the most empowering thing we can do for ourselves. If you are ready to take the transformative journey of letting go, Keep Reading. If not, come back when you are ready.
Tips & Tricks for Letting Go:
1) The Sedona Method
Focus on the issue you would like to feel better about, and then allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling in this moment. Ask yourself one of the following questions:
(A) Could I let go of this feeling?
(B) Could I allow this feeling to be here?
(C) Could I welcome this feeling?
Ask yourself: Am I willing to let go? And then ask a simpler question: When can I let go?
You can repeat these steps as often as you need to until you are free of that particular feeling.
2) Distraction or Learning Something New Although this technique does not get to the root of the problem, it at least gives you some time away from the thought of letting go. It can be helpful to step away from the thoughts for a while, but please do make an effort to let go.
I find journaling to be the most helpful, because you can see what you are letting go of. You can also take the time to write out everything that comes to mind, the emotions, the memories and more. Here are a few journaling prompts to try out: (A) What does "Letting Go" mean to you? What do you think of when you hear the words "Letting Go"? And how do they make you feel?
(B) On a scale of 1 to 10, where 1 is someone who goes with the flow and 10 is a control freak, where would you place yourself, why and do you have negative judgements about where you are on the scale? Explain.
(C) In what ways is letting go similar to giving up, and in what ways is it different?
(D) What was the most difficult thing, person, idea or dream you've had to let go of? What happened in your life as a result of letting go?
(E) Is there anything in your life now that you wish o or have let go of? How are you responding to that wish or requirement? What choices are you making and why?
4) Feeling Things Through This is where the real work comes in, and where things flow. It's in allowing yourself to feel everything attached to what it is you are trying to let go of. Stop bottling up your feelings, and start to let them flow. The more emotional energy that is being released the more likely it is that you will let go. This is similar to what I say in Yoga, "In order to move through and let go of the feeling, you actually have to feel the feeling. It's the only way to release it." As unpleasant as it sounds, and as uncomfortable as some of the emotions can be... this is truly the only way to let things go. So find a space and let the emotions flow.
5) Burning Ceremony